I was where you're at back at the end of the Alpha. Right now I've given myself the next two patches. I'm not playing or spending, but I'm willing to wait to see if they fix it enough to retain me, before leaving for good. NMS lacks the atmosphere and feel of Elite, but it can fill the exploration itch in a pinch and VR is pretty neat.I'm the same even though I always thought I'd be quite realistic about Frontier's promises vs what they ended up delivering (1/3 chance of thinking it's "fine", being disappointed or indeed extremely happy about the result).
I was initially non-plussed about FCs, what a rollercoaster of emotions that was - I never felt I needed them and thought they should focus on something else, then when FDev showcased the initial design I was pumped, when we got what we got in the Beta I was disappointed, and eventually I ended up enjoying them quite a lot, despite the missed potential and opportunities. Bought a ton of cosmetics for mine in the end (many of them broken beyond recognition) and wouldn't want to play without it now.
But I no longer have that sense of hope that things will get better, or potential something has, the makeup has been removed now, EDO's content shows the cold hard truth in daylight that this is what they can come up with after years of content drought, so based on that I will only judge the product now based on the as-is of today, not what may or may not be in half a year or two.
I also no longer have the patience to wait indefinitely for things to turn better, and I feel that if this carry-on bumbling about from patch to patch continues for much longer, I will just nip this in the bud and move on eventually.
I'm not there yet - but I've already promised myself I will never buy any Arx again for what they did with the PJs, where there's zero guarantee that they will sort those out in the future. That's a big step for someone who was quite liberal with his credit card, but I've really had it this time. There's still some tiny hope left they can salvage things, but it's not a lot.
My process at the moment is to just login on patch day, benchmark a variety of activities, do 2 hours of intense bug testing, and then log off.